"chasing."

so going down the confusing auto maze that is the la opera parking structure...karla and i were talking about friends and relationships. one of the things that i highlighted in my mind was our discussion on how there are girls (guys too but we didn't refer to them primarily) who lose interest in guys once they find out they like them. let's make an example: kimberly thinks tommy is cute and has an interest in him but when tommy makes it aware to her that he likes her...all hope is lost as she loses any attraction. and yes...i did use tommy and kimberly as in the white/green and pink ranger from mighty morphin power rangers haha. anyways...karla and i found it most unusual and perplexing but it eventually kinda made sense. it's something that happens quite often. girls don't necessarily embrace risks...but they love mystery, the unknown. they like it when the lines aren't in bold and the rules aren't exactly determined. it's pretty much anything goes because nothing is really serious. you can almost get away with anything and be just playful to your heart's content. "it's all fun and games until someone falls in love." i always say this as a joke but it can actually be applied in this idea. seriously...it's totally lame when the scenario mentioned earlier happens. the girl holds back...doesn't go further and sees the real risk, the lines becoming clear and the rules taking form. personally...i've been on both sides. the person on the giving end...and the receiving end of the rejection. ouch. yeah...it's not pleasant. truth is...in the end both people are victims...deprived of an opportunity at something good. oh sure there's a lot of factors and what not but let's take a nice guy and a nice girl who have so much going for the both of them individually and in their connection but it doesn't work out because one or the other doesn't give in. usually...it's not letting go and letting God but this time it's not letting go and letting love (let's not start on the whole God is love arc). i'm not talking about romantic love really...but just the flourishing of a connection between two human beings. there's two thresholds, two chases when it comes to a relationship. the first threshold and chase is the one i've been typing about. it's not the chase we typically refer to but a chase is a chase...one is trying to get to the other or even both are trying to get to the other. crossing that threshold to the next chase and threshold is where karla and i focused our discussion. if everything looks good...then why do so many girls (once again...does happen to guys too) fall out instead of in, avoiding what can be something better than what they got right now. and the guy gets cut short...his hopes dashed. the two of them avoid the best part of potentially forming something together. the threshold of coming together...chasing one another mutually with the rules set and so forth. whether or not this has happened to you or if you agree or disagree with this perspective, realize that like my friend ed always says: life is about choices. we need to invest, to risk, to decide in order to "truly" live. we have to see that if can't risk we won't win. if we don't invest we won't see much in the future. if it's the rules that are daunting, the awareness that something playful could really be serious...then remember that "the chase," like love, is like playing the piano. first you must play by the rules...then you forget the rules and play from your heart. don't know if this all made sense but to you i say cool runnings. run to your heart's content and chase like never before. you can lose...that's a possiblity. but...you can win. and that's an opportunity.